Sunshine Blogger Award

I am very honored and proud to say that I have been nominated by “Fatgenestoskinnyjeans” for the Sunshine Blogger Award! This means a lot, coming from a blogger that I’m truly inspired by! So, to say thank you, and, to show my gratitude, I am going to participate by answering the opportunic questions that are listed.

1. I’m asked what would the title of my memoir be. I believe that I’d title it, “Life’s Simple Contraditions”.

2. If I could change one thing about my past, I would spend more time cherishing and living in the present.

3. If I were to ever sing in kareoke, meaning.. in front of a group of people… the song that I’d choose to sing would most likely be, Gloriana’s, “Lead Me On”

4. My absolute favorite quote: “Be Still”. I have been through trials in life where I truly learned the value in patience. I also found out what it meant when the Lord said “Be Still…. “. That is the time when God brings peace and calmness to your spirit. It’s better than any meditation.

5. My favorite hobby is learning. I love to continue to learn about new things, updated things. I love to write.

6. The biggest thing that I’ve overcome? I overcame my struggle with patience.

7. I would like the opportunity to reach out and connect with others and possibly share in life’s details and experiences by blogging. I am brand new at this… We shall see.

8. What would I do if I won the lottery? I would take days, weeks… etc, to just think on that. I’d give… & id give… & id pray that God would put it on my heart as to where money is needed. I’d also buy a new home and go back to college:)

9. If I could spend one day with anyone, I’d want to spend it with Jesus. I think of how nice it must’ve been for his disciples to sit and talk with Him in person… I’d love to just spend a day with Him… just the two of us… and, for me to be able to actually cry on His shoulder, or, to just see His face…

10. Best advice I’ve been given… “Be Still”.

The rules are that you should thank the person that nominated you, answer the questions that have been listed, then, nominate those that you feel are deserving… also, giving 10 questions for them to answer to help us to get to know more about one another.

My questions for the chosen nominees are:
1. Which do you find more important, justice or mercy?
2. What are you most passionate about and why?
3. Trump or Hillary? Haha
4. If you could decide exactly where you’d be in 5 years and what you’d be doing, what would you say and why?
6. In an unexpected dilemma , possibly controversial, and, against the rules, but, you are involved and expected to follow along, which would you consider first? Which would consider to be the most important.? ; Ethics or Morals
7. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would that be, and why?
8. What is something about you that you’re known for , that many compliment you for?
9. Can you believe it’s already almost 2017? Where has time gone??
10. This isn’t a question, I’d like to make a statement.. I’d like to tell you that even as strangers, we are all familiar. We are all living in a this same world, witnessing the same heartbreaking cruelties and chaos. It seems that hate, anger, and bitterness increase by unmeasurable amounts each day…. but, I know that LOVE is the cure, antidote, whatever you choose to call it. Something as simple as LOVE. So, keep spreading as much love as ya can…. Have a great day!

I nominate
amommasview
kavarastories
blackgirldown
allessandro trapasso

Reasons vs. Excuses

rea·son\ˈrē-zən\
noun
: a statement or fact that explains why something is the way it is, why someone does, thinks, or says something, or why someone behaves a certain way
: a fact, condition, or situation that makes it proper or appropriate to do something, feel something, etc.
: the power of the mind to think and understand in a logical way

ex·cuse\ik-ˈskyüz,
1 a : to make apology for
b : to try to remove blame from
2 : to forgive entirely or disregard as of trivial import : regard as excusable <graciously excused his tardiness>
3 a : to grant exemption or release to <was excused from jury duty>
b : to allow to leave <excused the class>
4 : to serve as excuse for : justify <nothing can excuse such neglect>
Other forms: ex·cused; ex·cus·ing
ex·cus·able \ik-ˈskyü-zə-bəl\ adjective
ex·cus·able·ness noun
ex·cus·ably \-blē\ adverb
ex·cus·er noun
Origin: Middle English, from Anglo-French escuser, excuser, from Latin excusare, from ex- + causa cause, explanation.
First use: 13th century
Synonyms: blink (at), brush (aside or off), condone, discount, disregard, forgive, gloss (over), gloze (over), ignore, overlook, overpass, paper over, pardon, pass over, remit, shrug off
noun
: a reason that you give to explain a mistake, bad behavior, etc.
: reasons that you give to explain politely why you cannot do something, why you have to leave, etc.
: something (such as a condition or set of conditions) that explains improper behavior and makes it acceptable
Full Definition
1 : the act of excusing
2 a : something offered as justification or as grounds for being excused
b plural : an expression of regret for failure to do something
c : a note of explanation of an absence
3 : justification, reason
synonyms see apology
Examples
What’s your excuse for being so late?
She had no valid excuse for not finishing her homework.
He’s always making excuses for himself.
First use: 14th century
Synonyms: alibi, apology, defense, justification, plea, reason

At what point is the line drawn between listing reasons and listing excuses? What determines the difference?

Love & Lessons Learned (a little too late)

What is love to most?  Honestly, what does love mean when considering commitment?  I’d say that most individuals relate “love” to their specific expectations at that present time.     Those expectations may be dependant on a variety of variables.     Maybe,  he/she didn’t laugh at ALL of your jokes during this routine nightly phone call.   Or, maybe, there’s a bit more silence in between spoken words.   Suddenly, a change so small, can become an issue, simply because, it’s not what is expected.     Sounds trivial, so far, I know.   I am going to share how I learned the truth about seeing the small things, all while missing the big picture.     I was taught the truth about loving the right way, but, it wasn’t until I lost it, that I understood.

I loved so passionately.   I honestly thought the man hung the moon…  well, let’s just say that I knew this guy could  name the stars, planets, galexies, and, so on….    I would genuinely get lost in his wonder, as he’d be looking up into the night sky, going from one interesting piece of information to another ..  gladly sharing with me what he felt so passionately about.      I can remember losing thought, and, drifting into my own wonder…  Him.     As he’d speak, my mind was busy with thoughts of amazement..   And, disbelief, because, he was mine.   He loved me as much as I loved him.    It was the real thing.   I would thank God in prayer without him even knowing…   and, then, I’d focus back to his words.     Yes, there is no doubt, I truly believed that I loved him.    However, he would tell me a different meaning of love.    His meaning of love hurt my feelings, at first.   He told me that there is no “falling into love”.   He claimed that there wasn’t some magical feeling, but, that I shouldn’t be discouraged by that.    He told me about how love, to him, was a choice.    A commitment.    I was terrified by that.    I knew that he could choose not to love me just as easily as he chose to commit to loving me.    However, I was aware of his dedication and loyalty.    Plus,  surely that couldn’t have been completely true.     He may say it’s a choice, but, after a while, it becomes your emotions, right!?   No.     Me, being highly emotionally needy to him, I had great expectations.    They were not reasonable.  I reacted by emotion.    That man shared with me his knowledge of how we are NOT TO REACT BY EMOTION.     We are to know that the heart is deceitful.      Our actions should ALWAYS BE consistent, respectful, and should not come from a place of uncalm emotions.  

I lost him.    He was my best friend.   He is the smartest man that I know.    He does everything  right.   The fact that he exists and I got to be apart of his life is the blessing of a lifetime.     I told him once that it was similar to someone else winning millions in lottery…   You know,  the odds?       I want others to know that relationships can last, and, not only can/will they last…  it can be wonderful.   But, it is a choice that you make…  each day.. even when you don’t feel like it…  Or, when you think your partner isn’t feeling or doing the same as before..     Communicate.   Talk about everything.     Work through every stinking, little issue.    Be friends.   Be patient.   Every. Single. Day.         Love is a choice that you make because that person is worth it to you.   Then, the both of you need to choose GOD .. daily.